Stages of Love Relationships

STAGE 1 (1-3 Months): The Knowing Each Other Stage

Everything seems perfect, both are happy and feeling “in love.” You share moments, dates and just having fun with each other, sharing laughs and giggles. It’s like nothing could stop you. Your feelings are infinite, and for once you’re thinking, “This may work out….” and it seems like nothing could go wrong. You spend hours getting ready before going out with this person.

*If your relationship ended in this stage — Most likely, both rushed into the relationship too quickly. Being together was all too sudden and just for the moment. When one starts noticing the flaws, one gets a choice to move foward, or back away. Being friends has a high percentage of working out, but nothing to stress over. Both may just need the time to get to know one another better.

STAGE 2 (4-6 months): The Bumpy Road

Things are going okay now. The relationship is calm and settled; both are still mostly happy. Had a couple arguments and disagreements here and there, nothing huge. Start to notice some of each other’s flaws and aspects of their personalities not seen before, but still truly care for one another. 

*If your relationship ended in this stage — You truly cared about this person. You had the energy to fight for this person, yet you feel as if something was lacking, something was missing. It doesn’t feel right, one isn’t happy. When one isn’t happy, one tends to walk away to seek their new happiness. Being friends is still a possibility.

STAGE 3 (7-12 months): The Rocky Mountain

You start to realize who your partner really is. A few more arguments may occur. Problems with jealously, overprotectiveness may arise. Other people may come in the picture. The “in love” moments start to decrease, but you feel as if you’ve “fallen in love.” You tend to have this energy inside to strive and “make it work,” and you feel more comfortable being around this person, feeling more of yourself. 

*If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel as if you’re hurt, depending on the circumstances. You were so sure that that person was “The One.” You were so SURE that he/she was different. But like a cancer, a problem that may have happened, a small issue, grew into something larger that took over what was made between two people. You still miss this person from time to time. You still remember the memories. Being friends may be difficult right away, but over time, you slowly mature up, and learn the reality of it.

STAGE 4 (1 year or more): The Long Road

1, 2, 3, 4, 5 years, huh? This person truly means something to you. You are “in love” with this person. He/she made a difference in your life. No one else knows you more than this person. You guys have been through the good, the bad, and the ugly, and still strive to make it last.

*If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel heartbroken; it’s tough. You can’t sleep, can’t eat, you miss him/her, you try to move on, you try meeting new people, but seems like nothing works. For whatever reason the split occured, it must’ve been something important, or something must have been so wrong that it took over. Being “just friends” is impossible, because if you tried to be friends, you wouldn’t be able to think of them in any other way besides the one you once “loved”.

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Insider: Call Center Agent

DISCLAIMER: Contents in this post may have mature content and I wrote this to share my thoughts to the people who wants to know the life of a "virgin" call center agent.

THANK YOU FOR CALLING — the most common opening spiel in every call center industry not only here in the Philippines but also throughout the globe. I am about to share my experience and my thoughts in mind on how different life is when you are a call center agent.

Before I graduated in college, I told myself that I have a bigger chance to be an agent, even though my mom don't want me to get into that kind of job, but I have to take the risks to get a job as soon as possible. Even my mother told me "wag na wag kang mag call center JR kasi masisira ang kalusugan mo't magsilabasan yang sakit sayo". But then as soon as I set my foot to Metro Cebu, I applied to many of the companies in Cebu IT Park in Lahug, but I was successfully accepted to the job that I was expecting to, in a Call Center.

It was July when I had my training. The training was on a specific account; an account I am referring to is the one you are assigned depending on what type of job did you apply to, if you are a plain Customer Service Representative or Technical Support Representative and eventually I was a Level 2 TSR and was assigned to a technical account. Together with all other new hires (some are already in a call center) we were trained how to fix, create an order and everything that is needed to cater the customers' issues/concerns. I successfully passed the training and was endorsed to take live calls.

It was the 3rd week of September when we were endorsed to the production floor, where all other agents take live calls, at first I was a little bit confused. Within this time I knew that our scores are major-based according to the Customer's Satisfaction or CSAT as the acronym. We should comply to the passing score in order to pass to regularization. It was also my first time to wake up much earlier to go to work. My life is like work - 2 days rest - work, just like that, I never expected that it will be more difficult for me to adjust my body clock in order not to be late at work cause I know time is very important in a BPO Industry. Well, I had a lot of absences and tardiness and was told that if I want to be regularized don't be absent or be late because it will affect my scorecard.

In the middle of taking calls and whatnot, I suddenly realized that everything in my life when I started to have illnesses that I never got before is not good. Sudden loss of weight, loss of appetite, insomnia and some other illnesses. Then I thought as much as my co-workers also knew, that I am very exhausted anymore with this job. Call center industry offers a really good start of salary, allowances and benefits, but in the long run I also realized that it is not worthy if your health is at risk. I am very concern to my health and as much as I am also concerned to my co-workers, friends and family. I finally concluded my thoughts and end up in a decision that I hope will be good.

I am not saying that call centers are bad jobs people, I just want you to know that it is not an easy job. You will take risks to be able to get a higher pay and higher position.

I would like to give my sincerest thank you to all my colleagues who motivates me everyday to go to work and to my families and friends for listening to my words and especially to my only one who inspires me to work.

Now, I am currently looking for a job that is good for me and that I will hopefully love. Though maybe my pay will be much lower than my previous job, it is okay cause at least, Ill be happy, and contented to my work.

God bless to all of you! Job hunting is not easy though! ;-)

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General Santos City proposed as separate legislative district

GENERAL SANTOS CITY – South Cotabato officials are pushing for the separation of this city into a separate legislative district before the May 2013 midterm national and local elections.

Current legislative districts of South Cotabato province and General Santos City

Rep. Daisy Avance-Fuentes (South Cotabato, 2nd District) said Friday they are presently working for the referral to the committee on local government of House Bill (HB) 6038 or “an act reapportioning the composition of the first (1st) and second (2nd) legislative districts in the province of South Cotabato and thereby creating a new legislative district from such reapportionment” when Congress resumes its sessions next week.

She said they expect the committee to immediately schedule the hearings for the proposed measure, which was filed by Rep. Pedro Acharon Jr. (South Cotabato & Gen. Santos City, 1st District) last March 19. “Right now, our target is to have this bill passed and hold the first elections for the reconfigured districts in [May] 2013,” she said.

Fuentes, who is the bill’s co-author, said the measure mainly provides for the reapportioning of the present composition of South Cotabato’s first and second congressional or legislative districts.

She said the reconfiguration will pave the way for the creation of a separate or lone congressional district for this city.

 

The first district presently comprises this city and the municipalities of Tupi, Tampakan and Polomolok in South Cotabato. The second district is composed of Koronadal City and the municipalities of Tantangan, Banga, T’boli, Surallah, Sto.Nino, Norala and Lake Sebu in South Cotabato.

Under HB 6038, Fuentes said South Cotabato’s first district will be reshaped into the towns of Polomolok, Tupi, Tampakan and T’boli. Koronadal City and the six remaining towns will compose the province’s second district.

“We decided on this reconfiguration with the consideration of pushing later on for the creation of another separate district for Koronadal City,” she said.

Proposed reapportionment for South Cotabato province and General Santos City

Koronadal, which is a component city of South Cotabato, is the province’s capital and the seat of Region 12 or the Soccsksargen Region.

The city, which has a population of 538,086 based on the 2010 census, has long been classified as an independent and highly-urbanized locality but it has remained a part of South Cotabato’s first
congressional district.

It was originally a component of the undivided Cotabato empire province until Congress approved its charter in 1968.

Based on the 2010 census, the municipalities of Tupi, Tampakan and Polomolok of South Cotabato posted a combined population of 236,370, which is short of the 250,000 population requirement for the creation of a new congressional district.

The authors carved out T’boli town, which has a population of 79,175, from the second district to complete the population requirement.

Early last year, the South Cotabato provincial board passed Resolution No. 5, which sought for the separation of General Santos City from the province’s legislative configuration and the re-apportionment of the area’s existing districts.

Vice Gov. Elmo Tolosa, co-author of the resolution, said the proposal would significantly benefit the province in terms of increased allocation from the congressional Priority Development Assistance Fund
or PDAF and guaranteed representation at the House of Representatives for local constituents.

Tolosa said they believe that being a first class province, there’s a need for South Cotabato to have more representation in Congress to cope with its rapid growth in terms of economic and social development.

With a population of 827,200 based on the 2010 census, the province’s total population was projected to reach around 851,000 this year based on its annual average growth rate of 1.46 percent.

Source: MindaNews

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